Podcast #87 Where’s The Mojo, Dude?

I am woman, hear me roar!
I am man, hear me…umm…take a selfie?
Where have all the men gone? Is male behaviour failing to keep pace with  what women want? Is there room in the sky for both of us to shine? What should we do – if anything – to keep up with the changed dynamics between sexes? Where did male mojo go?
Kregg and I put on a jacket and tie and polish our shoes to discuss.

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Riding the Wave

In a time of digital reproduction and near-perfect quality, relating to other humans appears increasingly anachronistic.
My iPhone updates with a new operating system as technology changes. Automatically. My personal operating system was cast at birth and set by the time I was seven.
Our cars tell us when something’s wrong, what it is, and what to do next. No-one even considers tinkering with them any more. Most of the time I can barely tell you what I’m feeling, and definitely not what caused the emotion, nor how to fix it. Every day is different, no one internal reaction the same.
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Fitting the Curve

Likely as not it’s a natural tendency for both sexes, although because we are significantly different from each other, we go about it in different ways.
Males learn early on that some behaviours work in their favor when it comes to attracting females. Extroversion, willingness to accept risk and physical prowess are amongst the characteristics worth cultivating. Of course we’re mostly talking about early on in our adult lives, which means that we’re still teenagers and barely meeting the minimum grown-up requirements, but it continues in albeit muted form until we die.
We’re also talking extremely generally; exceptions are as thick as

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Podcast #86 Relationship Triggers

Have you ever said:
I can’t stand it when he talks with food in his mouth?
Or
Why does she never wait until I finish talking before butting in?
Perhaps you’re someone who doesn’t react to anything anyone does. Congratulations. Most of us have triggers. But what are they and how do we deal with them in a couple?
Kregg and I set each other’s teeth on edge with this podcast.

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Change-Up

Lots of men find themselves stuck in high school when it comes to relating to women. This, a consequence of poor attention to knowledge about relationships, detrimentally affects both sexes, creating misunderstanding and resentment.
Here’s the problem: when guys are beginning to date and relate to females, they learn specific behaviours. Teenaged females react to certain modes of bloke communication and interaction, so our typical young man learns those lessons.
Women then grow older and change. Experience modifies the way they look at life and themselves, and as a consequence they expect men to provide different inputs accordingly. Unfortunately, men don’t apply

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Boundary Rider

I can’t imagine what it’s like inside the head of a modern woman. On one hand she is propelled by her biology, her DNA and all that flows from that.
Then she has to integrate the expectations derived from the modeling of her parents and the lessons of growing up.
And on top of it all she has the day-to-day influences of peers and media.
What stands out in my big-picture description are the differences of time-frame; biology operates over thousands of years, and they become progressively short-term thereafter.
Looking at it this way gives us a perspective on the nature of change in

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Mob Rule

Being a male does not mean I’m responsible for the past actions of my sex, nor the current actions of other blokes.
The notion of an individual representing the entire history of a group to which he or she belongs (by default) is the kind of conceit that’s widespread and not useful.
Here’s a way to look at this. If you’re a female with bad experiences of men in your past, that’s not a good thing. Your natural bias is to project such a history upon both all other men and your own future. That skew isn’t helpful to you, and it

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Why Younger Women Date Older Men

There may be many reasons that a younger woman chooses to date an older man. There should be no shame in who you love; women need to support each other and respect the decisions that other women make. In the words of Mohadesa Najumi, '[T]he woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.'

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Podcast #85 Relationship Myths

Powerful ideas permeate our lives and how we proceed through them. Unfortunately, not all received wisdom is actually wise: Compelling nonsense is still nonsense.
Because facing difficult truths isn’t as fun as feeding fantasy, many of us make life-changing decisions based on myths and legends…few of which have any use in real life.
In this podcast, Kregg and I look at a few big-picture myths and figure whether they’re useful or not.

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Podcast #84 Am I As Attractive As I Can Be?

How delightful life would be if everybody could see into our hearts and spirits, and divine just what evolved and delicious individuals we all are.
Well, we don’t live in a world arranged that way. Appearance counts. People notice how we face life,  and, happily, we can take action to make ourselves more attractive. There are no guarantees of success, because that too is the way of the world, but there’s one key…ah, but you should listen to find out what that is.
In this episode Kregg and I riff on making ourselves our best in the eyes of others.

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