Future Imperfect

The more we digitize, the more we expect digital precision.
We look at our iPads and the HD video thereon, and sometimes wonder at just how pristine and perfect it looks, right down to the blemishes (okay, acne) on actors’ chins. It’s astonishing.
The problem with reliability and crystal certainty is twofold. One, our inbuilt sloth slumps to apathy because we no  longer need to fix anything or work-around failures. Who repairs their own car any more? We turn the key or push the button and go. The effort is minimal.
Secondly, and more subtly, the very fact that so much is now

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Why Women Like A Fashion Conscious Man.

Ladies, have you ever gone on a date dressed in your best chic, yet casual attire with hopes of looking like someone who is a cut above the rest without trying to be? You look the part of the Hollywood “A-lister”, making whatever you are wearing a fashion statement for all to admire but they [...]

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Job Interview

We’re subject to our biological drives. You know what I mean.
Unfortunately, biology has as its major interest big picture stuff; continuing the species and…well, that’s about it.
In the meantime, we have to live our lives. That involves working, shopping, cooking, cleaning, taking out the trash, paying tax and repairing the dishwasher.
Note that we have two jobs working simultaneously. One is the long-term family creation and perpetuation position; the other is maintaining the infrastructure. From the first flows the second, but while we have emotional, intellectual and gut investment in the first, the second is often an afterthought.
Maybe we’d choose better

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Dating and Going Out

Dividing dating into two different sub-species would help us see things more clearly.
Dating – the word and the idea – makes more sense as the process of spending time with someone with at least one eye towards creating a union. A formal, public union.
Going out – for which we should coin a new word – is all about being with another person (or a number of other people) with a view to simply being with them. Like being in the moment, we’re going out for entertainment, for the company, for passing time or perhaps we’re just looking for a sex

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Forks in Roads

Prioritization and choice define the pathway through life.
Sometimes choices expand, and sometimes they get squeezed. Choices increase or decrease based on prior choices. Equally they can change based on innumerable factors beyond our control.
Our choices will determine the universe of actions from which we must prioritize. First, though, we need to define what that universe is; not what we’d like them to be, but realistically what they are.
Prioritizing based on imagined choices, or choosing based on impractical priorities makes for a disappointing life, because our achievement rate will be lower than if we’re realistic.
One simple example is buying lottery tickets.

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Trench

Funny thing about relationships. We think we want the person we see in front of us.
Wrong. What we want is parts of the person we see in front of us, plus some other stuff we’ve always dreamed about and a number of wish-list items that we reckon the other person can implement if they really want to.
Here’s where a deep breath is useful. Singlehood allows time for imaginations to roam free. Imagination is a wonderful resource, but fails us when introduced to the real world. People are flawed and imperfect in a universe of frustrating ways, so the less we

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Camaraderie

If we think mimicry is a useful shortcut to success, observing successful couples is worth our time.
With the perspective of hindsight, I think I’ve figured out at least one quality that many folks have to keep their relationships moving along nicely. That quality is something akin to collegiality, or camaraderie.
We don’t often talk about the friendship or teamwork part of being with someone. Love – or as I like to call it thesedays “love” – attraction, sex and all those other gooey words take up much of the conversation. However, as two people move from strangers to boyfriend/girlfriend and then

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Tinder Launches Reactions

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In a perfect world, everyone would always treat each other with respect—whether it's from behind a phone screen or IRL. Unfortunately, it’s not a perfect world and most women have encountered douchey behavior at some point. So the women of Tinder are on a mission to make calling it out, when it happens on Tinder, easy and fun while letting the nice guys know they aren’t finishing last. We created Tinder Reactions so that our users can give instant feedback—both positive as well as constructive—to those who need it most.

So if he’s sweet, send hearts;

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Motivate

Living in a world of words beats the alternative. Totally guessing here, but I imagine we developed language to communicate our thoughts to the people around us. That and to make use of the drive-through food ordering option.
The upside of spoken language is connecting with others, whether we’re fulfilling a cheeseburger desire or a desire for something else.
“I’d like a small number six combo with Sprite” isn’t such a long way from “Would you like to meet for a coffee?”
Note, however, the difference of completeness; the food order allows no room for interpretation, which is good because who wants a

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Tuition

Logic should triumph emotion.
That only works in a mythical universe, which leaves us figuring out some hybrid way to figure out stuff.
Relationships figure high in the table of arenas in which we need to use both our smarts and our guts, but there are few guides as to how to do this. Relying too heavily on one side or the other likely leads to dissatisfaction, mostly because we need to accommodate the other person’s needs.
Which might be the key. If we know that we’re linearly driven, consciousness of the other person’s, say, more non-linear nature will go a long way

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