Find Her or Him

I wonder if we need to think in terms of a minimum threshold we need to attain before dating. It wouldn’t be a tricky thing: a useful way to make a living, some money, physical health, mental health, freedom from addiction, established probity in one’s affairs.
As a list of low-level requirements, it doesn’t challenge mainstream ideas. If you want to become and remain a member of almost any society, these are close to being the least the rest of us can ask.
But reasonableness does not apply to dating and romance. Nor sex. Unspoken and unwritten, the unstated assumption is that

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Find Her or Him

I wonder if we need to think in terms of a minimum threshold we need to attain before dating. It wouldn’t be a tricky thing: a useful way to make a living, some money, physical health, mental health, freedom from addiction, established probity in one’s affairs.
As a list of low-level requirements, it doesn’t challenge mainstream ideas. If you want to become and remain a member of almost any society, these are close to being the least the rest of us can ask.
But reasonableness does not apply to dating and romance. Nor sex. Unspoken and unwritten, the unstated assumption is that

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Say #imavailable This Giving Tuesday and Help Raise $200,000

Tinder users have swiped right more than 20 billion times showing they’re available and looking to make a special connection. But on Giving Tuesday, we're asking our millions of users to be available in a different way - specifically, for those in need.

We've created a message people can easily share to any of their social networks, letting their community know they are available – whether that be to help a friend move, donate time to a soup kitchen, buy Christmas gifts for those who can’t afford them this year, or just be a listening ear to someone who needs it.

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Home and Away

Is dating the same as living together?
“No” is the answer, in case you are in doubt. And yet the mixing of the two continues, a circumstance that will continue to cause problems until we figure out the difference.
Romance is not domesticity. When put as plainly as that, no-one denies the difference. And yet the idea:
Let’s move in together…
…will be asked millions of times in the coming month.
What won’t be asked is:
You know, we get along on a romantic and fun level, how would we get along being together 24/7?
The answer, in case you haven’t guessed, is not to shack up.

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Marathon for Success

Aviation is one field in which management of objectives is taught.
Flying is a business in which prioritization is proven to be a critical part of survival, with plenty of lives lost to underline the point. When circumstances turn against the pilot, hoping and ignoring do not work; he or she must consider what must be done to – in the worst case – survive.
The skill is figuring what we must do now, what comes next, and then what we’ll do. There are must-dos and nice-to-dos. Continual reassessment and possible re-prioritization is key.
Flight simulators allow for safe creation of stressful situations.

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What To Do If You Catch Your Partner Reading Your Texts

You constantly find your phone someplace other than where you are sure you left it.  You turn on your laptop and it logs on to a page you know you didn’t leave it at. Something is just not quite right, but you are not entirely sure what it is. Wrong! You know what is going [...]

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Save Yourself

It was the love of money that ancients considered the root of all evil, not money itself. Modernists interpret that to mean that avarice and greed are the culprits here, but we’re loafing around in the same neighbourhood.
A more clear-cut case reveals itself in relationships. Some significant proportion of marriages end over disputes and stress concerning family finances, and we can intuit that many more are thusly tested. I’d go further and say that almost all marriages and a big majority of other relationships find themselves in a sticky puddle with respect to money at some point.
It’s huge.
Can we prevent

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Surefire Conversation Ice-Breakers For The Holiday Season

With the holiday season quickly approaching you will undoubtedly be going to all kinds of parties thrown by friends, employers and whomever else wants to celebrate this time of year with a crowd of strangers! This is not only a great time of year to gain some weight on the free food and drink but [...]

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Don’t Change The World

Somehow the idea that the greatest goal in life is to head out there into the world and change it, presumably for the better, has taken root.
Well intended notions like this survive because the underlying motive is pure. What’s left unexamined is whether the world needs the change I want to make, or if it’s possible.
I like to invert these ideas. Why do we think the world needs to change in the first place? And, more usefully, why isn’t it already close to where we think it needs to be? Mostly people talk about the big picture, like food security,

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Where Are You Going?

From first meeting to stable marriage is a long and stimulating journey. When someone new arrives in your gravitational field, the longevity of the relationship is uncertain at best and a gamble at worst.
Once someone gets somewhat close and there’s a prospect of him or her being even closer, the dance of independence and proximity begins. How much do I want this person to be a part of my life? How often do I need or want them to physically be in my presence? Critically, how do the answers to those questions fit the other person’s?
The permutations of freedom and

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